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When Being a Bitch Pays Off…

Posted in celebrities, chocolate, love, relationship with tags , , , , , , , , , , on April 17, 2010 by jentonelli

So— in lieu of me being a miserable bitch the past week, I must confess it worked only to my advantage. Now ladies, I don’t suggest you try this at home unless you are confident that your bitchiness will work in your favor. Some girls haven’t mastered the art of being a bitch yet. I can only tell you that in my breakdown to mr. right the other night, I was then showered in grocery store gifts. You might be wondering what this means…. Here is a photo to better represent it:

Thesis Survival Kit?? Oriental Lilies, because lilies are my favv flower. The April issue of People Style Watch with JENNIFER ANISTON on the cover, because well if you haven’t figured it out already, I love her. A bag of Heath bars and a bag of Almond Joys because those are my two top chocolates and you should know by now how much I love Chocolateee!!!

Let me also mention that he is no lovey-dovey kinda guy. I was completely shocked to see his efforts to cheer me up in such a heart felt gesture….. Again, this was a huge risk on my behalf to be such a crazy bitch just because my life was falling apart in front of me…. but for some reason, he saw the better side of me and loved me still.

There is this great Marilyn Monroe quote

I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.

I think this is important for us girls to remember. We aren’t perfect, but if we can find a guy who is willing to deal with those moments of absurd, ridiculous, unnecessary bitchiness…. and still love us, not only that but give us chocolate, jennifer aniston and a potted plant of lilies….. I think you should keep him around ūüôā

I can’t give you all the answers, each fight is different… but try to keep your fight to one argument at a time. Don’t try to cover every single thing that bothers you–one warranted point should work just fine. Also, try to make your argument really strong. Believe it. Stick to it. If you do, he might start to as well. Finally, and I mean this seriously: Cry. Bawl your eyes out. Not just for him, but for you. Crying is necessary and what better time to do it then when you can get some sympathy and loving for it ūüėČ

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Whole Living Action-Plan….

Posted in fitness, health, lifestyle, recipe, shopping with tags , , , , , , , on March 29, 2010 by jentonelli

Helllooo … happy rainy day. I would like to invite you all into the next 28 days of my life. It is going to be terrifying…

In addition to applying for jobs, writing my senior thesis and completing the rest of my semester as well as planning for any summer moves; maintaining my health needs to be a priority in a stress-filled time. For all of us, we get bogged down by papers and job searching, taking tests and trying to have fun since apparently college is the only time for that?? Not true. Our whole lives are going to be filled with work and fun… College does NOT mark the beginning and end of this.

We need to find a way to balance our health with this stress, or we will always find some excuse not to exercise and eat right. You know you’re exhausted so you skipped the gym, but the endorphins released from exercise are proven to give you energy…. You don’t have time to cook so you go for fast food. Bad. We need those healthy and natural nutrients to keep our energy levels up and avoid crashing after a shit-load of sugar and dairy.

I proudly announce the Whole Living Action-Plan! And I invite you to join. I was reading Body + Soul magazine last night and found this 28 day plan to purify and assess our health, moods, food intake, exercise, energy, fitness etc. It offers recipes, steps and motivation for all who choose to do it. They have broken the plan down into 4 weeks. The first is a Detox Cleanse. The last is a full and healthy lifestyle. In between are two weeks to get you there. This is not the type of plan that ends in 28 days, it is 28 days to get you to your best self and help you stay there!

Today marks my ¬†first day of the cleanse. The cleanse calls for a liquid-based diet. Wait, before you run, listen up. They say the best way to cleanse is to have liquid-based meals for breakfast and dinner complete with a hearty and filling lunch. For breakfast they offer delicious smoothie recipes and for dinner, tasty soups, you can obviously mix and match, but keep that thought in mind that liquid is your friend. Also, drink as much water as you can… 8 glasses!! And lots of tea will benefit your cleanse and your life.. For the lunches, try to avoid sugar, wheat and dairy. Go for salads filled with proteins, legumes, and hearty veggies. Below is a complete list of foods to INCLUDE and EXCLUDE during week one of the plan: The Detox.

Foods to Include

  • Dairy substitutes:¬†Rice and nut milks such as almond milk and coconut milk
  • Non-gluten grains:¬†brown rice, millet, amaranth, teff, tapioca, buckwheat, potato flour, quinoa, gluten-free oats
  • Fruits and vegetables:¬†unsweetened fresh or frozen whole fruits, water-packed canned fruits, diluted fruit juices and raw steamed, sauteed, juiced, or roasted vegetables
  • Animal protein:¬†fresh or water-packed fish, wild game, lamb, duck, organic chicken, and turkey
  • Vegetable protein:¬†split peas, lentils, and legumes
  • Nuts and seeds:¬†walnuts; sesame, pumpkin, and sunflower seeds; hazelnuts; pecans; almonds; cashews; nut butters such as almond or tahini
  • Oils:¬†cold-pressed olive, flax, safflower, sesame, almond, sunflower, walnut, canola, and pumpkin
  • Drinks:¬†filtered or distilled water, decaffeinated herbal teas, seltzer or mineral water
  • Sweeteners:¬†brown rice syrup, agave nectar, stevia, fruit sweetener, and blackstrap molasses
  • Condiments:¬†vinegar; all spices, including salt, pepper, basil, carob, cinnamon, cumin, dill, garlic, ginger, mustard, oregano, parsley, rosemary, tarragon, thyme, and turmeric

Foods to Exclude

  • Dairy and eggs:¬†all
  • Butter and mayonnaise:¬†all
  • Grains:¬†wheat, corn, barley, spelt, kamut, rye, triticale, most oats (oats are usually contaminated with gluten unless you can find a gluten-free brand)
  • Fruits and vegetables:¬†oranges, orange juice, corn, creamed vegetables
  • Animal protein:¬†pork, beef, veal, sausage, cold cuts, canned meats, frankfurters, shellfish
  • Vegetable protein:¬†soybean products (soy sauce, soybean oil in processed foods, tempeh, tofu, soy milk, soy yogurt, textured vegetable protein)
  • Nuts and seeds:¬†peanuts and peanut butter
  • Oils:¬†shortening, processed oils, salad dressings, and spreads
  • Drinks:¬†alcohol, caffeinated beverages, and soft drinks
  • Sweeteners:¬†white and brown refined sugars, honey, maple syrup, high-fructose corn syrup, and evaporated cane juice
  • Condiments:¬†chocolate, ketchup, relish, chutney, barbecue sauce, teriyaki

Things to Watch For

  • Corn starch is often present in baking powder, beverages, and processed foods.
  • Vinegar in ketchup, mayonnaise, and some mustard usually comes from wheat or corn.
  • Breads advertised as gluten-free still might contain coats, spelt, kamut, or rye.
  • Many amaranth and millet flake cereals contain oat or corn.
  • Many canned tunas contain textured vegetable protein, which is from soy; look for low-salt versions, which tend to be pure tuna, with no fillers.
  • Multi-grain rice cakes are not just rice. Be sure to purchase plain rice cakes.

For the complete Action-Plan with recipes, fitness routines and steps for your personal 28 days to a better self, click here: Whole Living Action-Plan

Let me know if you have been inspired and I will be updating you on my own progress. Ciao–XoX

bad habits in love! yes girls, we have them too…

Posted in lifestyle, relationship, sex with tags , , , , , , , , , on March 16, 2010 by jentonelli

Flipping through the April 2010 issue of Glamour on my flight home from the Bahamas, I was shocked and pleased to find an article with such conviction. “What’s Destroying Your Love Life? Oh…Could it Be You?” is brilliant. The article points out how quick we are to blame men for our failing relationship, lifelong loneliness and constant agony, when in reality, ladies, we are just as flawed and the last people to admit it. Often, it is hard for a best friend to tell you what you are doing wrong in your relationship, for fear of hurting your feelings. It is hard to hear it from your man, because well, he’s hardly ever right. And forget about asking your mother, she’s either cut her losses long ago and just agrees with you all the time, or she criticizes you so often you don’t bother listening anymore. But, a magazine, that you trust and love, that you don’t feel personally judged by, like a secret pen pal, or wise old woman, is a great alternative for advice. A magazine can indirectly point out your flaws and mask it with the idea that thousands of girls are reading it, which keeps you from getting offended!

Listen to a few of these common mistakes that Glamour discusses and a ton of chicks are probably guilty of, but check out the issue for the full article:

1. Do you take the fun out of it? How often are you saying ‘no’ when your guy is trying new things? Choosing to stay in and make him stay in too, for fear of what could happen if you leave the comfort of the couch? Rolling over and falling asleep as soon as you hit the pillow? Think about how things were when you started dating. If there has been a significant change in your fun habits, reevaluate and loosen up.

2. Do you over-rely on technology? The magazine makes a great point in discussing the ways in which girls are constantly on facebook, their blackberries and texting. When you are with your guy, put down the laptop, silence your phone, make eye contact and work on the relationship that is in front of you rather than the one across the Internet. I’m sure you would expect that from him, right? Also, nix the bad habit of the lonely text, just because you went home alone tonight, or your friends are out on dates, or you’ve had one too many espresso martinis, that is no reason to text that old, dead-end, flame… he’ll still suck in the morning, and you’ll feel that old regret.

3. Do you pick unavailable guys? Unavailable is a multifaceted term. This doesn’t just apply to the man with a girlfriend, but also, the emotionally unavailable guy who is constantly blowing you off, or telling you he doesn’t want anything serious, even after years of sex, dates and family visits. A rule of thumb, you shouldn’t be coming up short in a relationship. If he is content and you are miserable, chances are you’re losing a lot more than you’re gaining.

4. Do you get off on drama? Ahh, so true, so true. The magazine highlights something key to a relationship: communication. But think of this, when was the last time your man threw a fit, cried, hung up on you, and screamed about four different things at once?? Hopefully, it wasn’t recently. The truth is, a downside to us women being so in tuned to our emotions, is that we often lose control of them just as quickly as we show them. Sometimes, it feels great to scream, because we feel powerful and passionate. We start fights just to get any attention at all, or just for the make up. We bring up things that are completely unrelated because we ran out of recent topics but still have enough fuel to last us till next weekend. Basically, this habit will only get you as far as that last scream and it is definitely one to learn to let go of. There are plenty of other ways you should find passion and power in your relationship!