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Final Season of The Hills…

Posted in beauty, celebrities, friendship, love, relationship with tags , , , , , , , , , , on April 27, 2010 by jentonelli


So I don’t usually talk about TV shows and that is mainly because I don’t watch any television show more than once. I have not found a single sitcom that has interested me, a series that has held my attention or a cast that I like. As you know I still watch the Friends DVDs religiously… and if not that, you can find me watching HGTV because I absolutely love watching home renovations and make overs…

Howeverrr…. I will say that I used to love love love Laguna Beach when I was in High School, and mainly because I lOveee Kristin Cavallari!

I think she is so pretty, honest and flat out amazing. She brought the drama to that show but I loved her so it was great….

When she left, so did I and I never watched the spin off The Hills which starred Laguna Beach star Lauren Conrad (LC). But when I heard Kristin was coming back as the main star on The Hills after LC left… you can guess I was very interested.. She was hotter than ever, stealing BF’s left and right… but I still could not help but love her.

I watched the entire season last season and had almost forgot about it until flipping through MTV and the trailer for this season was on. I was Horrified!! Check it out for yourself before you Continue!

As you can see from this–the show touches upon a lot of issues that girls face today. Relationships, cheating, heartbreak, friendships falling apart, but the scariest element of this next season is the f*ed up body image that many girls have. What has become of Heidi (the plastic looking blonde) and what about the drug accusations of Kristin (my girl)….??? I will be extremely interested in seeing how this season plays out and I hope you will join me! The season starts tonight @ 10 on MTV…

For the next few weeks I will be trying to follow the show and recap it for you each week! Love you XOXO

You Might Say This is LUDAcris…

Posted in celebrities, love, relationship, social media with tags , , , on April 19, 2010 by jentonelli

Listen Up: I’m only gonna break break your break break your heart……

I Heart ‘The Diaries of Adam and Eve’

Posted in beauty, lifestyle, love, relationship with tags , , , , , on April 18, 2010 by jentonelli

For the remainder of my Capstone class, we are reading The Diaries of Adam and Eve by Mark Twain. I was hesitant to even open the book because of all the other work I had piling on top of my life. I sat in our school’s coffee shop, Jazzman’s, deliberating this daunting task. Every single book I am assigned to read for classes such as Capstone, What it Means to Be Human, Seeking Wisdom, etc. is usually horrifying and leaves me miserable. I opened up the book and noticed how little text was on each page. I decided, this can’t be that hard. In 10 minutes, I had read like 65 pages. I then realized it was time for class and I didn’t want to stop reading. So, of course, I read it throughout the entire class instead of paying attention to the discussion on the book. I figured I was learning either way:

Picture from my phone of the easy-to-read pages of Mark Twain’s The Diaries of Adam and Eve

Before I go any further, I just need to tell you this book is great. Twain uses his knowledge of men and women and the ‘historical’ facts of the biblical story of Adam and Eve, and tells this remarkable tale of humanity. My teacher told me that the story is actually about Twain and his wife. Through his personal experience, Twain pin points even the most bare qualities of men and women that still exist today. It is playful, funny, romantic and well-written in short, hilarious diary entries.

Here is the first excerpt of Adam’s Diary:

MONDAY — This new creature with the long hair is a good deal in the way. It is always hanging around and following me about. I don’t like this; I am not used to company. I wish it would stay with the other animals. . . . Cloudy today, wind in the east; think we shall have rain. . . . WE? Where did I get that word-the new creature uses it.

The first from Eve:

SATURDAY — I am almost a whole day old, now. I arrived yesterday. That is as it seems to me. And it must be so, for if there was a day-before-yesterday I was not there when it happened, or I should remember it. It could be, of course, that it did happen, and that I was not noticing. Very well; I will be very watchful now, and if any day-before-yesterdays happen I will make a note of it. It will be best to start right and not let the record get confused, for some instinct tells me that these details are going to be important to the historian some day. For I feel like an experiment, I feel exactly like an experiment; it would be impossible for a person to feel more like an experiment than I do, and so I am coming to feel convinced that that is what I AM — an experiment; just an experiment, and nothing more.
Then if I am an experiment, am I the whole of it? No, I think not; I think the rest of it is part of it. I am the main part of it, but I think the rest of it has its share in the matter. Is my position assured, or do I have to watch it and take care of it? The latter, perhaps. Some instinct tells me that eternal vigilance is the price of supremacy. [That is a good phrase, I think, for one so young.]
Everything looks better today than it did yesterday. In the rush of finishing up yesterday, the mountains were left in a ragged condition, and some of the plains were so cluttered with rubbish and remnants that the aspects were quite distressing. Noble and beautiful works of art should not be subjected to haste; and this majestic new world is indeed a most noble and beautiful work. And certainly marvelously near to being perfect, notwithstanding the shortness of the time. There are too many stars in some places and not enough in others, but that can be remedied presently, no doubt. The moon got loose last night, and slid down and fell out of the scheme-a very great loss; it breaks my heart to think of it. There isn’t another thing among the ornaments and decorations that is comparable to it for beauty and finish. It should have been fastened better. If we can only get it back again —

The diaries were written separately and later compiled into one book. Each character’s entries truly touch upon the realities of love and the differences between men and women. There are hundreds of books, blogs, websites and articles discussing the ways that men and women behave differently. And while these theories of psychology, science and nature are all interesting, this book writes these differences in such a simple manner, that it seems to answer more questions than that other bull-shit relationship propaganda.

Even though Eve and Adam have such seemingly different approaches to almost every single event that occurs, from naming things, to lifestyle choices to how they treat their children, I believe that the understanding of these differences is a good place for love to start. Throughout the novel we question Adam’s understanding of Eve. He resents her voice because he was used to quiet. He dislikes her attention because he enjoyed his peace. He does not like when she tells him what to do, names objects for no reason, cries when he might get hurt and cares for their child more than the other animals. All of these things begin as annoyances because Adam does not understand the need for anything she does. Later, in Eve’s diary, an extract from Adam’s diary is provided. It must be the first moment that Adam feels love:

Perhaps I ought to remember that she is very young, a mere girl and make allowances. She is all interest, eagerness, vivacity, the world is to her a charm, a wonder, a mystery, a joy; she can’t speak for delight when she finds a new flower, she must pet it and caress it and smell it and talk to it, and pour out endearing names upon it. And she is color-mad: brown rocks, yellow sand, gray moss, green foliage, blue sky; the pearl of the dawn, the purple shadows on the mountains, the golden islands floating in crimson seas at sunset, the pallid moon sailing through the shredded cloud-rack, the star-jewels glittering in the wastes of space — none of them is of any practical value, so far as I can see, but because they have color and majesty, that is enough for her, and she loses her mind over them. If she could quiet down and keep still a couple minutes at a time, it would be a reposeful spectacle. In that case I think I could enjoy looking at her; indeed I am sure I could, for I am coming to realize that she is a quite remarkably comely creature-lithe, slender, trim, rounded, shapely, nimble, graceful; and once when she was standing marble-white and sun-drenched on a boulder, with her young head tilted back and her hand shading her eyes, watching the flight of a bird in the sky, I recognized that she was beautiful.

An artistic remake of Adam and Eve – “Human Body Art”

I suggest you find a copy the next time you go to the book store, if anything for the comedy and endearing quality that this book evokes, but hopefully so that you learn a thing or two ❤

The Truth About Gender Roles….

Posted in friendship, lifestyle, love, relationship, social media with tags , on April 17, 2010 by jentonelli

HEY…. STOP what you are doing and watch this hysterical video! NOW. Then go to the website below to watch all of them.

Their Official Website! Harvard Sailing Team

When Being a Bitch Pays Off…

Posted in celebrities, chocolate, love, relationship with tags , , , , , , , , , , on April 17, 2010 by jentonelli

So— in lieu of me being a miserable bitch the past week, I must confess it worked only to my advantage. Now ladies, I don’t suggest you try this at home unless you are confident that your bitchiness will work in your favor. Some girls haven’t mastered the art of being a bitch yet. I can only tell you that in my breakdown to mr. right the other night, I was then showered in grocery store gifts. You might be wondering what this means…. Here is a photo to better represent it:

Thesis Survival Kit?? Oriental Lilies, because lilies are my favv flower. The April issue of People Style Watch with JENNIFER ANISTON on the cover, because well if you haven’t figured it out already, I love her. A bag of Heath bars and a bag of Almond Joys because those are my two top chocolates and you should know by now how much I love Chocolateee!!!

Let me also mention that he is no lovey-dovey kinda guy. I was completely shocked to see his efforts to cheer me up in such a heart felt gesture….. Again, this was a huge risk on my behalf to be such a crazy bitch just because my life was falling apart in front of me…. but for some reason, he saw the better side of me and loved me still.

There is this great Marilyn Monroe quote

I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.

I think this is important for us girls to remember. We aren’t perfect, but if we can find a guy who is willing to deal with those moments of absurd, ridiculous, unnecessary bitchiness…. and still love us, not only that but give us chocolate, jennifer aniston and a potted plant of lilies….. I think you should keep him around 🙂

I can’t give you all the answers, each fight is different… but try to keep your fight to one argument at a time. Don’t try to cover every single thing that bothers you–one warranted point should work just fine. Also, try to make your argument really strong. Believe it. Stick to it. If you do, he might start to as well. Finally, and I mean this seriously: Cry. Bawl your eyes out. Not just for him, but for you. Crying is necessary and what better time to do it then when you can get some sympathy and loving for it 😉

in love: confidence is key

Posted in family, friendship, love, relationship with tags , , , , , , on April 12, 2010 by jentonelli

Jealousy is an inherent aspect of our culture.


With the occasional bitch-fight with your best friend or mother, jealousy is most prominent in our relationships with our boyfriends/girlfriends. But why??

Think of the best relationships you have:

Likely with a parent, a best friend, a sibling, a coworker, even a pet, whoever….

Think of how you act toward that person:

Likely confident, secure, interested, mature, compassionate, positive and unconditional….

Think of your relationship with your partner:

Insecure, dramatic, negative, immature? If so, you might want to evaluate this relationship.

Why is it that we treat our significant other so differently than the other people we claim to love? Why do we constantly get jealous? Cause fights? And set standards that are extremely ridiculous just because they are our boyfriend or girlfriend? When in reality, we would not treat our closest friends or relatives in this manner. We know that our mother will love us unconditionally, even if we have a ton of siblings. We don’t accuse our best friend of cheating on us with their other friends. We aren’t likely to flip out on our coworkers for giving us constructive criticism. And we do not expect our sisters to text us back all day in a timely manner. We know these other people are capable of having lives and friends and still love us back. Why, though, do we often set our boyfriends or girlfriends up to fail? Why can’t we maintain that same confidence and security?

I believe it is one of the most important aspects of a relationship to feel secure, exude confidence and use our best judgment as often as possible. I believe this is the key ingredient to love. If you are successful in your friendships and your familyships, then you should introduce those same values into your relationships. The rules of love are the same for each relationship in your life. People want to be trusted, respected and treated as real people, not as property and not as people who owe you something, especially all of their time. Just as you expect your own space and freedoms, as well as trust, the person you date desires these things to. Give and you shall receive.

for my bacon-loving boyfriend.

Posted in health, lifestyle, recipe, relationship with tags , , , , , , , , , on March 30, 2010 by jentonelli

For the sake of love, we all must admit that our boyfriends might be able to eat a lot more unhealthy than we can and feel no regret or face any consequences in terms of weight or emotion. This can pose a problem. Often, our eating habits change when we are in a relationship. It can lead to becoming unhealthy because we go out to eat all the time, bake cookies together or snack each night before bed. On the other hand, some people are missing out on all the treats in fear of becoming the fat gf. I will definitely say that my boyfriend could eat all day, every day and still look the same. He might hit the gym hard and often, but even the emotional side of eating is much different for him. He could eat bacon for breakfast, lunch and dinner and not feel bloated, crampy and pissy…


(That SlimQuick ad puts it so perfectly….)

To work through our own lifestyles and food choices, without letting it affect our relationships, cooking is a great release. You can search for super-healthy recipes that you both enjoy. It’s a win-win: he got a meal, you didn’t feel like you were giving up your healthy diet or like you were missing out on a treat. However, don’t forget men are human. They enjoy indulging, just like we do. I found this recipe that might be on the unhealthy side of dishes but looks too good to pass up, for his sake and mine.

I am going to attempt this meal next time we have breakfast together (basically because he loves bacon and eggs at all hours):

Bacon & Eggs in Toast Cups

▪6 slices of bacon

▪6 slices of bread

▪6 eggs

▪1/2 cup of shredded cheese

▪salt & pepper

1. Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Spray muffin pan with butter non-stick spray.

2. Using a cookie cutter, cut circles out of bread slices about 3 inches in diameter.

3. Take bread circles and press them into the muffin pan, set aside.

4. Heat a large skillet on medium-high. Cook bacon on the skillet until partially cooked but still pliable, about 3 minutes.

5. Shape bacon strips into the toast cups, fill with 1 Tbs of shredded cheese. Place in the oven for 5 minutes, allowing the bacon to toast just a little more. Remove from oven.

6. Crack your egg and separate out most of the egg white. Drop eggs into the cups, sprinkle with salt & pepper to taste. Place back in the oven and cook until white begins to set, about another 8 – 10 minutes.  The yolk should be creamy.

7. Remove from oven when done and pop out using a spoon, serve warm.

(Recipe credit to www.thenoshery.com)